benefits of showering with a partner

6 Benefits of Showering with a Partner (And 3 Other Ways to Share Self-Care)

Chances are you think of showering as a solo activity. In fact, your morning or evening rinse may be the only alone time you get each day. But even if you've transformed your shower routine into your favorite self-care ritual, there are still benefits to turning your "me time" into "we time."

Whether you're looking for a way to squeeze in face-time with your main squeeze despite busy schedules or hoping for a physical intimacy boost, there's something special about making a moment of self-care into a team activity. Here are seven reasons to step into the shower with your special someone.

benefits of showering together

1. Save Water

While plentiful water flowing from your faucet makes it easy to feel like we’ll always have enough water, we all need to work together to preserve this precious resource. Your shower is a great place to start.

The average shower in the U.S. uses 20 gallons of water. But what if two people could shower using the same amount of water? They'd significantly cut down on their overall water usage. Sure, doing so would take some concerted effort, but having the right shower head can help.

The hai shower head makes saving water straightforward. Use the hai app to set water usage limit targets. The hai light on your shower head alerts you and your partner when you've reached it, so you both know when it's time to get out.

2. Talk Without Distractions

Showering with a partner is an opportunity for real quality time. No interruptions. No distractions. Just the two of you, some water, and maybe a loofah.

Without the buzz of technology and outside obligations, showers can become zones for deep conversations and active listening. Spend your time talking about everything and anything (but remember, be mindful of that shower time!) Tell stories, reflect on your day's high and low points, or make weekend plans.

If you're stuck on a problem, bring it to your next couples' rinse. Combining two brains with the magic of shower thoughts might help you bust through any jams and come up with a creative solution.


3. Relieve Stress Together

Steamy showers are a great natural source of stress relief. Sharing the experience with your significant other can make it even more powerful, thanks to what therapists call co-regulation.

Co-regulation refers to the way simply being in the presence of other people—especially the ones we're close to—can help reduce our stress. If you've ever gone to your more relaxed partner for a hug when feeling anxious, that's a form of co-regulation. Your boo is essentially sharing their calm with you.

When you shower with your other half, you both experience a calming effect individually and then pass it on to each other, boosting its impact.

hai tip:

Get extra calming benefits from your shower by incorporating soothing ingredients into your rinse. The Relax Infusion from hai includes French lavender, vitamin B12, and sandalwood to promote calm and quality sleep—something most couples could use more of.

You can add Infusions directly to your shower's water stream. Simply place your Infusion in the Fuse attachment on your hai smart shower system at any point during your shower to enjoy the benefits of water packed with healing, activate ingredients.

hai infusions for relaxing in the shower

4. Get Cleaner

Your partner always has your back. And in the shower, that's literally the case. Sudsing up together means finally reaching those once impossible-to-reach spots.

Take turns cleaning each other up with your favorite body scrubber. Or, if you're feeling playful, stand back-to-back and wiggle around to use your body as a human loofah. (We dare you not to laugh while doing it.)

Wrap up your shower by washing each other's hair. A deep scalp massage serves double duty as a romantic gesture and a fantastic way to get thoroughly cleansed tresses. Plus, the scalp is full of nerve endings that can help boost relaxation for both of you.

5. Enhance Your Intimacy

We aren't just talking about sexual intimacy. There's something deeply personal about sharing such a private, usually solo, moment with a partner. Many couples find this intimate activity to be an incredible bonding experience.

Embracing, helping each other get clean, and talking in close proximity—all while completely naked with nowhere to hide—are all deeply vulnerable activities that can build on existing foundations of trust and safety.

Because showering can be so intimate, it's a good idea to talk to your partner about what they're comfortable with before you do it. (Fortunately, communication builds intimacy too!)


6. Romantic Connection

OK, in this case, we are talking about sexual intimacy. (Did we mention the whole naked thing?) While it's not necessary to make your shower session sexual, time in a wet, soapy, steamy flow can really heat things up!

If you and your partner decide to rub-a-dub-dub, remember that showers are slippery. There's soap, conditioner, wet tile, and porcelain. Throw lube into the mix, and sexy time could quickly turn into trip-to-the-ER time. Read up on shower sex precautions before getting intimate to ensure your session stays hot and steamy.

benefits of showering together

3 More Ways to Practice Self-Care Together

Showering together is just one way to share your self-care routine and deepen your bond with your other half. Here are three more ways to get your R&R on together.

1. Exchange Massages

Take turns giving each other a massage using your favorite body oil. It's a great way to ease tension and stimulate endorphins—one of the body's feel-good hormones.

2. Meditate together

Find a quiet spot in your home, get comfy on the floor or bed, then practice guided meditation together. It's an effective way to relieve stress and anxiety as a couple. Apps like Calm are great for beginners.

3. Take a Long Walk

Get out of the house and take a stroll around your neighborhood or nearby park. Enjoy each other's company, soak up rays, and get your bodies moving.

If you and your partner are ready to take your bathroom bonding to the next level, it's time to hit the showers.